Ok. moving on.
Now, you might say that 1 is not going to confuse anyone because obviously it’s a joke, and no-one really thinks that their manliness is tied up in how they control a mere mode of transport.
You’d be wrong - car advertising has successfully indoctrinated our culture into believing that the kind of car they drive is core to their identity, and woe and shame to any man who drives a girly car, or a family van.
This should also be self-evidently ridiculous. It should be clear that any given man’s value is not tied up in the kind of car you drive. I hope.
I refuse to propagate the idea that by refusing this (or any particular) definition of manliness I must be a woman or gay. In fact, there have been times when I’ve thought ‘maybe I’m gay’ because I don’t fit the definition of manliness that is expected. Which is not helpful to me, or to my understanding of actually gay people.
I’m done with ridiculous definitions of manliness.
As a man, I don’t have to value myself based on my car or my job or whatever.
What then is a good definition of what makes a man a good man?
Love sacrificially. Care indiscriminately. Forgive quickly. Share whatever wisdom you have.
Obviously this isn’t just for men. This is a good goal for any human people. Men and woman and those that aren’t contained by the gender binary.
Disregarding how problematic equating masculinity with aggression and violence is. ↩
Ultimate frisbee and indoor netball in mixed teams. Awesome. ↩
The gender-inequality in the programming industry makes this especially odd, but I’ve noticed that I often feel embarrassed or apologise for my soft indoor job. Odd, because it’s not like I’m the only man with an job inside. ↩
Basically this means I like bright colours and though I try not to spend money on clothes I don’t need, I appreciate style. ↩