In summary I don’t understand gender, and what I thought I understood I now understand even less. Rereading, I realise I concluded every section with some variant of ‘It’s not important’, however I want to stress that the distinctions are not important to me rather than unimportant universally.
I approach anyone talking about manliness, masculinity, or whatever with a great deal of suspicion and prejudice. Possibly unwarranted in some cases, and that definitely hurts me trying to understand gender and transgender people and so I’m trying to keep that prejudice confined to the places where it’s useful. ↩
This sentence must remain as awkwardly constructed as it is. ↩
I’ve been to a couple of women-only events when there were zero women who volunteered to run the sound desk. ↩
Excepting difficult conversations. ↩